In our last edition of The Huddle, Dr. Mosley kicked off our forgiveness double header with practical tips on offering forgiveness, including how to give yourself permission to practice forgiveness on your own terms. As a continuation, Dr. Mosley is back with additional tips, but this time on how to APOLOGIZE like a pro if you’re seeking forgiveness.
Sometimes we miss the mark, and an apology is necessary and expected. When crafting a meaningful apology, keep the following tips in mind.
Intent vs. Impact
“Although I didn’t intend or realize that my words/action hurt you, I understand that I did. And I’m sorry.”
Authenticity & Sincerity
Saying “I’m sorry” might not be enough, and this phrase does not absolve us from the impact of our words and behavior.
Request, Don’t Demand
”I already said that I was sorry” vs. “I know what I did was deeply hurtful. You have every right not to speak to me right now, but I am truly sorry for what I said/did. And I hope you will forgive me.”
Need a Forgiveness refresher? Check out Dr. Mosley’s USA Today article on Forgiveness or the full feature, “Family, Friends and Forgiveness,” from our previous newsletter.